I don’t mean to sound like I’m venting. I just want to paint a picture of what’s going on. I feel like I’m trying but I fall short in every area of my life. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong….well I do but I can’t change everything all at once and I don’t know where to start…
My house is a mess and my ex husband is coming in two weeks. He reports everything I do to the court so it needs to be spotless and I have a lot of unpacking to do that’s been there for months.
Also, I recently lost my job. I’m trying to get another one and can’t find one. I go online, I drive around and ask around but I can’t find anything. If I do find anything, my resume is in competition with 300 others and I don’t have a degree.
Also, for now I’m trying to do some freelance writing to make ends meet. I have to write five articles a day to make ends meet. I don’t have any financial help except a very small amount of child support.
My kids don’t mind very well and get in trouble in school sometimes and have poor attitude. I make rules but they’re so often broken, i can’t even remember who did what.
I had lost 25 pounds while I was working but have gained 8 back because of stress eating.
In the next two weeks, I need to look for jobs, finish my house and write 5 articles a day so I can pay rent and my car payment.
My mind is just spinning. I can’t think straight! Where should I start?
you’ve got your list so just get going on it – stop thinking about it.
start by setting up house ground rules and consequences – and stick with it. post them around the house. this is probably the most important.
have a family meeting remind everyone you are all a team. and if they mess up, you all mess up. try for unemployment benefits – and write those 5 articles first thing in the morning if you can. set aside an hour every day to clean a box or two. get the kids to help.
1 Well, if you qualify for unemployment start with that. If not, go apply for WIC and foodstamps just until you get a job. 2Even though fast food resturaunts suck to work at, they’re always hiring and they don’t carre about dimplomas, it’s a job until you can get a better one. 3 Sit down and talk to your children, they seemed old enough, i’m not sure of there age? and ask them to help out cleaning, ect. 4 clean the house, put some good tunes on and it’ll be done in a couple hours and since you don’t have to go to work, you’ll have the time.
I know how you feel. I am also a single mother of 7 year old and a 4 year old. And a new baby girl she 3 1/2 months old. And my house is total mess. And my two older children being bad has well. I at times can’t get anything done. I would think you would be able to get unemployment benefits. Or even Welfare can help you till you get a job. If the kids are old enough they can help you with cleaning. Give them a list that you would like them to do. Also if they behaves then take away their privileges like taking tv away computer away. And you can ground them has well. Good luck. Try to relax. Try to do several times during the day to clean.