I don’t mean to sound like I’m venting. I just want to paint a picture of what’s going on. I feel like I’m trying but I fall short in every area of my life. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong….well I do but I can’t change everything all at once and I don’t know where to start…
My house is a mess and my ex husband is coming in two weeks. He reports everything I do to the court so it needs to be spotless and I have a lot of unpacking to do that’s been there for months.
Also, I recently lost my job. I’m trying to get another one and can’t find one. I go online, I drive around and ask around but I can’t find anything. If I do find anything, my resume is in competition with 300 others and I don’t have a degree.
Also, for now I’m trying to do some freelance writing to make ends meet. I have to write five articles a day to make ends meet. I don’t have any financial help except a very small amount of child support.
My kids don’t mind very well and get in trouble in school sometimes and have poor attitude. I make rules but they’re so often broken, i can’t even remember who did what.
I had lost 25 pounds while I was working but have gained 8 back because of stress eating.
In the next two weeks, I need to look for jobs, finish my house and write 5 articles a day so I can pay rent and my car payment.
My mind is just spinning. I can’t think straight! Where should I start?
Well…he decided to divorce when he moved in with someone else.
He does not help at all. That will not change any time soon. We’ve gone to court over this for four years.
It looks like you are quite a prolific writer. Keep writing to make more money. Keep looking for work. Eventually you will find something.
In the meantime, clean your house so that you minimize your ex. Install some discipline with your children by applying rules.
I also suggest that you chill out to relieve stress. This could be done by exercising, meditation, yoga, or a hobby. Try to get your children involved with the same stress relieving activity if possible too.
Get your ex to help more with the upkeep of your kids. They are his kids too.
Your main problem is that your expenses outweigh your income. And a steady income you don’t have.
Do the best you can to cut your expenses and increase your income. And if your best isn’t good enough. Then you might have to ask the government for social assistance. And there is nothing wrong with that, as long as you keep trying your best to support yourself and your family.
Being a single mom is a lot harder than being a married mom with your husband to help you. But you and your ex have decided to divorce. And now you have to live with the consequences the best you can.